Overcoming repeat abortions
The World Health Organization defines abortion as “the spontaneous interruption of pregnancy before the 21st week of gestation and which ends with the death and expulsion of a fetus weighing 500 grams or less”. As we had already explained briefly in this article, we call recurrent abortion when this spontaneous interruption occurs in two or more pregnancies.
To better clarify the issue on this occasion, Dr. Arturo Valdés, with more than 15 years of experience and international training, presents us with a master class on video that explains the essentials of repeat abortions.
Experiencing reproductive difficulties produces great frustration in the couple, not being able to conceive when we want it affects our lives in very different ways, most of them painful.
But one of the biggest frustrations that a couple looking for a child can experience is the condition called Repeated Abortions.
Spontaneous abortions are a complication in pregnancy that can occur in up to 15% of pregnancies.
It is considered that if consecutive abortions occur, there is a high probability that there is a pathology that causes them.
Some of the causes that could influence this type of abortion are:
In the period of time from when a couple decides to go to the gynecologist to review why their pregnancies end in miscarriages, until they arrive at a fertility clinic specializing in the analysis of this problem, pregnancies and miscarriages can occur. This situation of happiness-depression charges the couple with great fear. The time comes when getting pregnant is happiness followed closely by a sense of tragedy. The abortion of a desired baby produces great sadness, but having several abortions can end the stability of any person.
Despite the pain of the losses, the couple must face the fact that infertility is not a fatal disease and repeat abortion has a solution. The only thing he asks of the couple is patience and dedication.
When our day to day becomes: my unfinished motherhood, or my inability as a woman or man to give my partner a child or similar feelings, it is time to seek specialized help to get out of depression, because it is true that a depressed mind lives in a depressed body and that body has a harder time getting pregnant.
A useful technique to continue with the goal of being parents with less pain is to close each loss and give each pregnancy the value it had in our lives. Allowing us to say goodbye to each one with the respect they deserve for having nested in our bodies and our hearts; because every pregnancy that is lost is not just an embryo or a fetus, it is a dream, a hope.
Live the duel.
The culture in which we live is not used to mourning the losses of unborn children, so one way to do it is to create a couple ritual, for example: Plant a tree, release balloons, write farewell letters and tie them to those balloons, bury the symbols of your loss (the ones that won’t be useful for a future procedure), attend a religious service and dedicate it specially to commemorate your child. It may seem uncomfortable, but most people who have participated in these rituals have found great relief.